Through conceptual clarification i could deduce that "relationship is the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.
It is also a romantic or sexual friendship between two people: the way in which two or more people or things are connected".
Sex on the other hand is the "physical activities in which people touch each other's bodies, kiss each other, etc. :physical activities that is related to and often and often includes sexual intercourse".
Many youths of today have likened relationship to be sex which shouldn't be so.
Relationship and sex might work hand-in-hand but it shouldn't be incorporated at the wrong time.
The opportunity for courtship is being abused on a daily basis just because we try to make relationship work through sex.
So many young girls have involved themselves in premarital sex which has led to unwanted pregnancy which some will abort while some will be forced to give birth at a tender age.
Everything in life is by stage. Yes, it is not possible you wake up one day and conclude that you want to get married without having someone you are dating that you have known for some months.
But the fact is that relationship and sex are two different things that should only be linked at the appropriate time.
So many men made their lady believe that if the lady did not have sex with them then she doesn't love them.
See, if you want to love, nobody will stop you from loving anybody, but don't pretend to love when your ultimate goal is to get under her.
Don't make her believe that sex makes relationship stronger.
Premarital sex doesn't make any relationship stronger, it kills the relationship especially when the intention is not for marriage.
Even at a stage, couples that didn't involve in premarital sex get tired of having sex with each other, then if that is the case, are you not making it a bit faster to lose thirst for sex?
I think ladies of this generation should have become wiser enough to decide about their life earlier than 18years.
Some men will only have sex with a lady ones and that's all. You should be able to keep your precious self away from the beast in men.
Many men out their are no more interested in staying with a woman for so long, they will tell you they don't like eating a particular food twice but love to eat different kinds of food.
They will come to you and give you all the sweet words and you will gladly accept them and even release your body to them like sheep without Shepherd.
You are the only one that can destroy yourself. You only go into wrong hands if you did not say yes to the right person.
During courtship you are free to decide if you can cope with each other or not, and you can choose to continue or discontinue your relationship.
But now a days, ladies find it difficult to leave the beast they are into relationship with simply because they have engaged in sex which has made her emotionally attached with the man.
That way, it will not be easy for her to say no when she should have said it.
Some men change immediately they have sex with their lady. The sex will automatically be an eye opener for them, they will want to explore more, thereby exposing them to any other things in skirt.
I am not saying it is not good to introduce sex in your relationship, but it is necessary to introduce it at the appropriate time to avoid the series of disadvantages associated with it.
It makes relationship stronger but this is for the couple and perhaps serious minded couple-to-be. Biblically it is not for those who are not married, in fact, it is a sin.
Some men are only interested in getting under a lady, but how will you decipher the true man from the fake? You can be safe if you keep your precious part till the right time.
Those that are even married can get divorced anytime let alone those that are not.
Though, some ladies are the cause of their own fall. They cannot do without sex, and so many reasons got them so attracted to that which we might not blame them for some, while some are due to covetousness and love of money.
Sex in courtship can mar your marital life more than it can make it.
Be wise and never give yourself room to regret your impatience.
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