Dating a guy just because you like him is futile, and here's why: He will always treat you as unimportant. If you need further convincing, here's why you should dump him:
1. You'll feel lonelier in the relationship than if you were alone.
When you stay with someone who cannot or will not give you what you need, you become dependent, insecure and needy. The needier you are of him, the lonelier you will feel when you’re not with him, making it harder for you to break free. Your boyfriend becomes the drug you're dependent on, and there’s no lonelier feeling than that!
2. Settling for crumbs destroys your self-esteem.
When he treats you badly by not calling you, not making any effort, not establishing what the relationship is, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you feel bad about yourself, you'll always settle for a person's second best — always the bridesmaid, never the bride.
3. It won’t make you feel good long-term.
You’ve invested a lot of time in a relationship that never gives you what you need — he never committed, you never moved in together, you’ve never met his family and friends. There’s no marriage and no kids, and you're mad at yourself for allowing life to pass you by.
4. You’re not leaving room in your life for the right guy to show up.
Most importantly, when you focus all your energy on a guy who's the opposite of what you say you want and you continue to date him, you’re not creating the mental, physical and emotional space for the guy you DO want to enter your life and give you that dream. The guy who makes you feel beautiful, wanted, loved and cared for. The guy who wants to claim you as his, the guy who wants you to move in with him, the guy who wants to marry you.
That's what you want, but he can’t possibly enter your life when your actions don’t match your words. So if you truly want love in your life, you must make what you truly want (including love), your top priority.
Enough with the problem men! They're exhausting, they don’t make you feel good and they don’t give you what you want. You want a gorgeous guy to dote on you because he wants to, because he wants a relationship with you, because he's as crazy about you as you are about him.
When you're congruent with who you are deep inside, what you want in life will show up because the universe always gives you what you ask for. So please, give your attention to what you want —lose the guy you don’t want if your only reason for liking him is the fact that you can’t let go of the emotion.
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